Holiday Wishes from Grossman & Associates, Ltd.

Dear Clients and Friends,

I hope this letter finds you well.  As the holiday season approaches, I like to thank those who have become a part of our extended family and share our news.

The firm has grown this year.  In April 2015, we welcomed Suzana Urukalo to the firm as an associate attorney.  Suzana brings over ten years of divorce and family law experience to enhance our capacity and responsiveness.  Her Canadian perspective and wit bring renewed energy to the office.  In June, 2015 we welcomed Andrea Yavarow to the firm.  Andrea graduated from Merrimack College in 2013 and has been a divorce paralegal ever since.  As the office’s “millennial”, Andrea is our technology troubleshooter and office charmer.   We feel like a team.

By now, most of you know Patryce, our firm’s senior paralegal.  Her attention to detail and “go-getter” attitude makes her an integral part of the firm.  Patryce recently ran for local office in Watertown, and although not elected, she successfully lobbied for improvement of the firefighters’ contract.  She also serves on the Watertown Task Force to remedy the opioid crisis.

In a world where faceless technology reigns supreme, I still believe in the value of face-to-face communication.  We have all been engaged members of the Newton/Needham Chamber of Commerce and ProVisors, a national networking organization, which expand our range of services available to clients.   The firm also hosted a summer mixer for attorneys who work within the N2 Corridor/Wells Avenue area of Newton.  Luckily, the wild turkeys in our parking lot declined to attend.

This year I joined the Board of Hospitality Homes, and the firm hosted a clothing drive to benefit Dress for Success Boston which promotes the economic independence of disadvantaged women by providing professional attire, a network of support, and the career development tools to help women thrive in work and life.  Together with our neighboring firms, we were able to donate fifty items of clothing to this charity.

For me, this year has been filled with family successes.  In May, my daughter, Ariel, graduated with her MBA from Boston University and my son, Micah, graduated from Loyola University in New Orleans.  Ariel now resides in Baltimore where she works for Johns Hopkins Medicine.  Micah toured Israel and U.S. cities as a guitarist with Matisyahu and is now in Los Angeles writing music for a publishing company.   Together we’ve been learning about entertainment law as his music career advances.   In August, my parents celebrated their 60th wedding anniversary at a surprise party thrown by my sister and me.

And finally, this year my various travels took me to Costa Rica, Hungary, Czech Republic, Austria, Germany, Morocco and Spain.   Knowing I have such a wonderful staff allows me to explore.

I so much appreciate the trust you have placed in my firm, and wish you all a year filled with family joy, happiness and fulfillment.                            

Warm Regards,



What to Expect When You’re Divorcing: Motions/Temporary Orders

The first time you enter a courthouse after a complaint for divorce or modification has been filed is often to attend to a Motion for Temporary Orders hearing.  Many people think that after listening to both your attorney and your ex’s attorney make their arguments, the Judge issues a Temporary Order on all the issues brought before them and you and your ex move forward with life and your case is done, unfortunately that is rarely the case.

Motion hearings are very common in both divorce and modification cases, however they do not end the case, their purpose is to put an order in place until the judge makes a final judgment after hearing all evidence from both sides at trial.

That first Temporary Order that the Judge issues in your case can be very instrumental in determining the direction your case will take moving forward.  It provides both sides and their Attorneys with an insight into the Judge’s thoughts on your case and can promote settlement negotiations.

On the flip side, during a Motion for Temporary Orders hearing the Judge has very limited time and information on which to base a well-informed decision.  The Judge does not have the opportunity to review any evidence from either Party or listen to testimony from witnesses prior to making their order, and will only have that opportunity if the Parties do not settle and instead move forward with a trial.


Grossman & Associates, Ltd.

Happy Holidays???

We are in the middle of the holiday season, the most joyous time of year, according to the Hallmark channel, or the most depressing time of year, according to those going through a divorce.

With the pre-existing challenge of having your holidays live up to the hype in the movies, malls and friends’ facebook, now throw in a first Christmas without your spouse or without your children and it all leads to pure misery.  There is a reason the stores don’t carry Christmas Tree ornaments that say, “Our First Christmas apart, Ex-Mr. and Ex-Mrs. 2015”.

Surviving your first Christmas without your spouse or missing your children is made a little easier by remembering the following 3 things:

  • If your children will be with your ex, plan ahead in scheduling phone calls and the day and time that you will be reunited. Having a planned day and time can be the light at the end of the tunnel that will sustain you.
  • Take a short road trip or mini vacation. Being physically away from the place you last celebrated the holidays with your ex or children will help keep the sad memories that creep up on you at a minimum.
  • The holidays are only a small snapshot of the year and don’t have to be given any more weight than you would give a random Tuesday evening.  It is the time and communication that you spend with your loved ones throughout the year that creates the most joy.

Grossman & Associates, Ltd.


5 Free Divorce Tips


  1. Never let your emotions make your financial decisions for you.

Family and Friends are excellent sources of support during the divorce process but they can be just as emotionally involved in your case as you are.  Turn to the professionals you have hired who are not living in your head for support so your anger and frustration doesn’t end up hurting you financially for years to come when the anger and frustration fade.

  1. Familiarize yourself with both you and your spouse’s finances prior to separating.

This is important regardless of whether you or your spouse is contemplating filing for divorce.  You should always have knowledge of the status of your finances including your combined incomes, assets and liabilities.

  1. Make a Future Financial plan for your life post-divorce.

The cost of maintaining two households is much more expensive than one household.  Be prepared both emotionally and financially by creating a future financial budget.  Putting a pen to paper and subtracting the cost of necessities from your new household income will help you determine what you can actually afford in your new life.

  1. Journal important numbers, dates and events.

Our memories are never as dependable as we give them credit for. Journaling using specific details in preparation for your divorce and during the litigation of your case will be the gift that keeps giving for your attorney.

  1. When it comes to children nothing is carved in stone.

Custody, child support, parenting plans are all examples of the issues which will most likely need to be addressed in the future on multiple occasions with your former spouse or as a last resort the court.  Flexibility and accepting change is key in co-parenting and necessary to for your children to continue to thrive.

Grossman & Associates, Ltd.