We are in the middle of the holiday season, the most joyous time of year, according to the Hallmark channel, or the most depressing time of year, according to those going through a divorce.
With the pre-existing challenge of having your holidays live up to the hype in the movies, malls and friends’ facebook, now throw in a first Christmas without your spouse or without your children and it all leads to pure misery. There is a reason the stores don’t carry Christmas Tree ornaments that say, “Our First Christmas apart, Ex-Mr. and Ex-Mrs. 2015”.
Surviving your first Christmas without your spouse or missing your children is made a little easier by remembering the following 3 things:
- If your children will be with your ex, plan ahead in scheduling phone calls and the day and time that you will be reunited. Having a planned day and time can be the light at the end of the tunnel that will sustain you.
- Take a short road trip or mini vacation. Being physically away from the place you last celebrated the holidays with your ex or children will help keep the sad memories that creep up on you at a minimum.
- The holidays are only a small snapshot of the year and don’t have to be given any more weight than you would give a random Tuesday evening. It is the time and communication that you spend with your loved ones throughout the year that creates the most joy.
Grossman & Associates, Ltd.