Choosing Your Divorce Lawyer May Be As Important As Choosing Your Spouse….

You thought choosing who you would spend the rest of your life with would be the most important decision of your life?  Choosing who will help you will help you divorce the person you thought you would spending the rest of your life may just be an even bigger decision.  Changing divorce lawyers is unsettling, disruptive and expensive.

The worst advice you could take from a friend or a relative is that it doesn’t matter who your lawyer is, “it won’t make a difference you will get what you get.”  Even before filing for divorce, choosing the right Attorney to represent you is crucial to your case.

In order to really judge who the right lawyer is for you, you need to find and interview 3 or 4 lawyers who specialize in family law.  An Attorney that has been practicing for 20 years won’t mean much to you if during their career they have only dipped their toes into the Probate and Family Court once every couple of years.

Once you have identified the 3 or 4 Attorneys you are going to meet make sure you come equipped with questions to ask each of them.  A basic but efficient list includes the following:

  • How long have you practiced family law?
  • How do you approach a new case?
  • What is your approach to settling a case?
  • How quickly do you follow up with me if I call or email you?
  • What retainer do you require up front?Although the retainer should be within your price range, keep in mind that cheaper is not always better.
  • Who in your firm will work on my case and how much will I pay for their time? Ask to be introduced to others who will work on your case.
  • How often will I receive an accounting of my retainer?The answer should be at least once a month.

Make notes immediately following each meeting when your memory and feelings are still fresh.  Important to note are the following:

  • Did you feel comfortable opening up to this attorney?
  • Did you feel intimidated by them?
  • Were they a good listener, or did they spend the entire time singing their own praises?
  • Did you feel as though this attorney would take a practical approach to your case?A practical but more expensive attorney is better than a cheaper attorney with no clear game plan.
  • Were they afraid to tell you something you did not want to hear? 

If in the end you still have any confusion about the process, call us, we will help you!

Grossman & Associates, Ltd.

617-969-0069